When one woman found out her husband was planning to throw her a surprise birthday party, she was expecting a joyous celebration. Instead, what unfolded that evening exposed the deep cracks in their relationship.
I (40f) have been married to my husband Sam (41m) for 10 years. We have four children (22,16,14 and 11) and up until the last few months, I genuinely thought that we could work through anything. This is not the only situation that has happened in the last few years, just the one that finally broke me.
I recently had a birthday and Sam planned a surprise birthday party for me. He spilled the beans to me 3 days before the party, and I thought it was adorable that he was so excited about the party that he couldn't contain himself.
I wish this was the case, instead, he told me that I needed to help him clean the house to get it ready for my party. Yes, you read that right, I needed to prepare food and set up the house for my own party.
I agreed to clean to keep the peace, but I was upset. The day of the party quickly came, and I was devastated to learn that he didn't invite most of my friends or family. He claimed that he didn't know how to contact them.
The final straw came when he carried out a cake in a flavor that he loved, nothing that I would ever choose for myself. I barely managed to keep it in and cried in the bathroom after everyone left.
I felt like an afterthought and hated listening to everyone compliment him for throwing me a party. I work two jobs, take care of the kids, and plan meals, grocery shopping, and most of the housework. I am exhausted and just want to feel appreciated for a day.
Am I wrong for considering divorce because I feel he doesn't care? I just can't imagine throwing away 10 years of marriage, but I feel broken.
This wasn’t just about one misguided event but a symbol of deeper issues in their marriage that have been ignored for too long. The disconnect, the lack of understanding, and the disregard for her true self have become too significant to overlook.
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